Week 53-What is the best sexual position for a woman to reach orgasm?

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The simple answer to this question is there is no one sexual position guaranteed to make a woman climax (wouldn’t it be great if there was!).  Everyone’s body is different. A position that rocks one woman’s world, may leave another woman feeling completely unfulfilled.

Different positions may bring new sensations to your sex life. Consider comfort, positions that allow lots of movement, penetration and stimulation, and the time you have to have sex.

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Here are some positions to consider:

 

Woman on Top- This position is prime for clitoral stimulation and g-spot stimulation.  Try leaning your torso forward, arching your back and keeping your clitoris near the base of your partner’s penis.  Being on top can also assist in g-spot orgasm.  Try leaning back on your hands or sitting for this type of stimulation.

Woman Sitting – This position allows for more g-spot stimulation

Missionary Position – Sure, this is a more conventional position, but it allows for physical closeness. Also, mixing things up a bit can be very rewarding.   Try changing the movement of your or your partners’ hips for deeper penetration, the height of your hips for angles that can lead to new sensations.  Your man can also close his legs once inside of you to increase clitoral stimulation.

Doggy Style – This position is great for g-spot orgasm.  Try lowering your shoulders and arching your back to alter the angle of penetration and ultimately stimulate the g-spot.

Side-by-Side – If long sessions really help you to orgasm, then this is the position for you.  Side-by-side limits motion and can make sex last longer.   You can face each other or spoon. Adjusting your body can create many different angles to stimulate the clitoris or g-spot.

If these seem complicated, this site offers a how-to with wooden dolls.

Other tips:

Get out of your old routine.  Have sex outside of the bedroom, for example. This can be very exciting and can ultimately assist in reaching orgasm.

Use your hands whenever you can.

Be comfortable. Before you try out any of these positions, you need to feel comfortable with both your partner and your own body.  Take some time to discuss what each of you find enjoyable. Then explore the possibilities and have fun!

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Midweek Condom Video

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It is a bit hard for me to reconcile that this is the country that brought us something as sultry and hot as the Kama Sutra.  That said, anyone who can pull off a 6 minute video with four men singing in pastel colored condom suits and extensive choreography deserves some credit.

“I am the condom friend ever useful to you,” does have a certain ring to it.

Week 52-What is the “G” spot?

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As we said last week … the “G” spot is the close friend of female ejaculation.

There is a lot of debate about the “G” spot. Does it even exist? If it does, why can’t many women find it? Others claim it’s just a fake. It is believed the “G” spot is a spongy pad that surrounds the urethra. You can access the “G” spot through the vaginal canal.  It can be found by exploring the wall of your vagina – the wall closest to your stomach. It is about 1 – 2 inches up in your vagina.

Putting pressure around the vaginal opening can stimulate the “G” spot, or it can be stimulated by putting pressure on the mons. Some women can best stimulate their “G” spot by using a vibrator or a dildo. There are a variety of shapes, some are specifically effective in stimulating the area.

Some women have a lot of fluid and don’t like either the embarrassment of the ejaculate or the messiness of it. Some women truly love the stimulation of their “G” spot and the ejaculate that often accompanies that stimulation.

If you want to explore – try it yourself, feel comfortable with the feeling, try different pressures and positions, stimulate various areas of your body. Enjoy yourself.

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Week 51-How common is female ejaculation?

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Female ejaculation, casually known as “squirting”, is a natural and normal function of the female body. Although many women do not experience ejaculation, most women have the capability to ejaculate.

There is a difference between female and male ejaculation. Male ejaculation is about reproduction – the delivery of sperm from a man’s testes for the purpose of reproducing. Women ejaculate for the sole purpose of pleasure.

Female ejaculation is a function of a woman’s Para urethral glands, also known as “the female prostate. The fluid – or ejaculate – comes through a woman’s urethra and is sometimes mistaken for urine. It is not urine, although occasionally there can be a little urine in the ejaculate. Women who do ejaculate don’t do so every time they have sex or have an orgasm.

There’s lots of debate about female ejaculation – some doctors say it’s physiologically impossible for women to ejaculate. On the other hand, many women, health practitioners, doctors, and sex activists dispute this.

One of the best ways for a woman to ejaculate is to stimulate both the clitoris and G-spot when highly aroused. If comfortable with ejaculation, and at that highly aroused moment bearing down as one does when urinating – ejaculation can happen!

Next week read how the “g” spot is the close friend of female ejaculation.

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Midweek “Weeds” Break

A wonderful vignette,  from Showtime’s “Weeds,” Season 5, courtesy of our colleagues at Planned Parenthood of NYC.  Alannis Morissette stars as an unflappable ob/gyn and Andy (Justin Kirk) is as charming as ever, jumping protestor lines to get himself a date.  Click on Alannis to view 2 minutes of “Laugh with the Sinners”

Week 50-How soon can you get an accurate result from a pregnancy test?

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There are different types of pregnancy tests – blood tests and urine tests.

A blood test can be accurate 8 to 10 days after ovulation – but you have to know when ovulation occurred.  A woman with a very regular menstrual cycle usually ovulates about 14 days before the first day of her period.  A blood test has to be administered by a health care provider, who will be looking for the “pregnancy hormone” hCG (human chorionic gonadotropin)

A urine test can be done by your health care provider or can be bought at a drug store, over the counter.  Most urine pregnancy tests are most accurate after a woman has missed her period-then they are about 99% effective.  If a test is done before a missed period it may still be effective – but not as conclusive.

Pregnancy tests on the market differ slightly.  Some offer high effectiveness a few days before a missed period while others detect various levels of the hormone hCG to determine the answer.  All range between $10 and $25.

Some over the counter pregnancy tests are digital – others offer name recognition.  You will notice that some come in multi packs – in case the first test is inconclusive or you need to test again the following month.

If you think you are unexpectedly pregnant and are undecided about a pregnancy, the best thing to do is get an accurate test as soon as possible.

Caution:  If a woman’s period is late and the pregnancy tests are negative but there are other symptoms synonymous with pregnancy – see your health provider.

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Midweek iPhone Passion Update

According to the Telegraph, there is now an iPhone app that lets you measure your passion.

“Users simply start the programme, strap the phone to their arm or belt, and press ’stop’ when lovemaking is over. The programme then gives a rating from ‘bad’ to ‘perfect’ on three criteria – duration, activity, and orgasm.”

I am wondering if there isn’t a conflict of interest between being passionate and having to say “Babe, just give me a minute.  I have to strap on my…iPhone.”

This just raises a bunch of questions:  Have low battery iPhones given a non-orgasm result and started a lover’s quarrel? Can you send results to your Facebook page? Tweet them?  What if I have a Blackberry? Will “I really liked him, but I looked at his passion app, and it turns out he didn’t really measure up”  be heard on the dating circuit?

For now, a good old-fashioned romp, without graphs, technology & measurable results, with blissful exhaustion as a sufficient indicator, may what most of us have to settle for.