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Week 56-How should I present a fetish to my partner?

September 18, 2009

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By definition, “Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the sexual arousal brought on by any object, situation or body part not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature.”

There are a wide range of fetishes people experience.  You may like being tied up, for example, and someone else may be turned on by feet.  Fetishes vary from person to person.

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If you want to share a fetish with your partner, wait until you know them well enough.  Asking someone on a first date to tie you up in leather and whip you could leave them running for the hills.

Once you feel comfortable enough with your partner, choose a time to talk and be as honest as possible.  Let your partner know how and why this fetish turns you on.

Ask your partner to include the fetish in your sex play—when and if they feel ready.

You should be aware your partner may be apprehensive to this idea at first, especially if this is the first time he/she has ever dated someone with a fetish. Be patient and non-defensive during this time.

Although there are lots of myths about them, fetishes can be safe, enhance sexual experiences, and be enjoyed by both partners.  Like any other sexual activity, it must always be consensual, mutual and respectful.

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Week 55-Why do women’s nipples vary in appearance?

September 11, 2009

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Women have many different types of breasts and nipples.  Nipples can vary in colour, shape and size,  mostly determined by genetics.

The average size of a woman’s nipple is 3/8 of an inch or 10mm. The skin of a woman’s nipples are rich with nerve endings that are easily stimulated. When stimulated the nerves send a message to the muscle around the nipple and causes the muscle to become erect.

Nipples can change temporarily when women are aroused during sex.  They can get hard and erect and are sensitive to touch, air, sexual thoughts, images, and words.  Some people call this change a nipple hard-on. When sexually aroused, nipple erection is accompanied by lubrication – helping the body prepare for sexual activity. 

Nipple erection can also change with temperature – like a tactile response to cold. This can sometimes be embarrassing, but it can also just be fun.

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Week 53-What is the best sexual position for a woman to reach orgasm?

August 28, 2009


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The simple answer to this question is there is no one sexual position guaranteed to make a woman climax (wouldn’t it be great if there was!).  Everyone’s body is different. A position that rocks one woman’s world, may leave another woman feeling completely unfulfilled.

Different positions may bring new sensations to your sex life. Consider comfort, positions that allow lots of movement, penetration and stimulation, and the time you have to have sex.

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Here are some positions to consider:

 

Woman on Top– This position is prime for clitoral stimulation and g-spot stimulation.  Try leaning your torso forward, arching your back and keeping your clitoris near the base of your partner’s penis.  Being on top can also assist in g-spot orgasm.  Try leaning back on your hands or sitting for this type of stimulation.

Woman Sitting – This position allows for more g-spot stimulation

Missionary Position – Sure, this is a more conventional position, but it allows for physical closeness. Also, mixing things up a bit can be very rewarding.   Try changing the movement of your or your partners’ hips for deeper penetration, the height of your hips for angles that can lead to new sensations.  Your man can also close his legs once inside of you to increase clitoral stimulation.

Doggy Style – This position is great for g-spot orgasm.  Try lowering your shoulders and arching your back to alter the angle of penetration and ultimately stimulate the g-spot.

Side-by-Side – If long sessions really help you to orgasm, then this is the position for you.  Side-by-side limits motion and can make sex last longer.   You can face each other or spoon. Adjusting your body can create many different angles to stimulate the clitoris or g-spot.

If these seem complicated, this site offers a how-to with wooden dolls.

Other tips:

Get out of your old routine.  Have sex outside of the bedroom, for example. This can be very exciting and can ultimately assist in reaching orgasm.

Use your hands whenever you can.

Be comfortable. Before you try out any of these positions, you need to feel comfortable with both your partner and your own body.  Take some time to discuss what each of you find enjoyable. Then explore the possibilities and have fun!

Planned Parenthood of northern New England’s Education Department carefully selects all weekly questions. All questions are actual inquiries made to PPNNE by college-aged students.

Should you have a question you would like to see included, please send an email to goddess@ppnne.org

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Week 52-What is the “G” spot?

August 21, 2009

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As we said last week … the “G” spot is the close friend of female ejaculation.

There is a lot of debate about the “G” spot. Does it even exist? If it does, why can’t many women find it? Others claim it’s just a fake. It is believed the “G” spot is a spongy pad that surrounds the urethra. You can access the “G” spot through the vaginal canal.  It can be found by exploring the wall of your vagina – the wall closest to your stomach. It is about 1 – 2 inches up in your vagina.

Putting pressure around the vaginal opening can stimulate the “G” spot, or it can be stimulated by putting pressure on the mons. Some women can best stimulate their “G” spot by using a vibrator or a dildo. There are a variety of shapes, some are specifically effective in stimulating the area.

Some women have a lot of fluid and don’t like either the embarrassment of the ejaculate or the messiness of it. Some women truly love the stimulation of their “G” spot and the ejaculate that often accompanies that stimulation.

If you want to explore – try it yourself, feel comfortable with the feeling, try different pressures and positions, stimulate various areas of your body. Enjoy yourself.

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Should you have a question you would like to see included, please send an email to goddess@ppnne.org

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Midweek iPhone Passion Update

August 3, 2009

original chartAccording to the Telegraph, there is now an iPhone app that lets you measure your passion.

“Users simply start the programme, strap the phone to their arm or belt, and press ‘stop’ when lovemaking is over. The programme then gives a rating from ‘bad’ to ‘perfect’ on three criteria – duration, activity, and orgasm.”

I am wondering if there isn’t a conflict of interest between being passionate and having to say “Babe, just give me a minute.  I have to strap on my…iPhone.”

This just raises a bunch of questions:  Have low battery iPhones given a non-orgasm result and started a lover’s quarrel? Can you send results to your Facebook page? Tweet them?  What if I have a Blackberry? Will “I really liked him, but I looked at his passion app, and it turns out he didn’t really measure up”  be heard on the dating circuit?

For now, a good old-fashioned romp, without graphs, technology & measurable results, with blissful exhaustion as a sufficient indicator, may what most of us have to settle for.

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Midweek Green Crank Toy Update

July 27, 2009

earth-angel-vibratorAn interesting alternative to traditional sex toys:  a vibrator that cranks, then vibrates.  No batteries needed!  Made from non-toxic, recycled materials, no less.

I have to admit, initially I was skeptical because my partner owns a flashlight with the same crank mechanism.  My personal cranking experience has not been great: picture a woman with a full bladder huddled in a rainy tent with this flashlight, cranking away until I thought my arm would fall off from the exertion, to then enjoy 3 minutes of mood lighting while I try to find a bush where there are no wild animals who are waiting to pounce on me.

That said, apparently this vibrator has more advanced crank technology.  The site claims just 4 minutes of cranking will get you…well…cranking for 30 minutes.

All this for around $90.

If you own one, or are rushing to get your credit card ready and will own one, please email goddess@ppnne.org and let us know how it goes!

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Week 48-What is a cock ring and how do you use one?

July 24, 2009

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First off, let’s say the term “cock ring” lacks elegance.  It is also sometimes referred to as a C-ring. That said, men use cock rings to make their penis larger and harder and to keep their penis erect for a longer period of time.  Men also use them to change the way ejaculations and orgasms feel.

You put a cock ring on when the penis is soft (over the shaft and the testicles – it will stay in place).  A well-fitted cock ring can also be removed from a hard penis (using lube can help when putting it on or taking it off). They need to fit properly–if not, they can be harmful.  Beginners should seek out cock rings that are softer and made of leather or rawhide. These products can be adjusted and won’t get as tight as a metal or a rubber cock ring. If it is too tight, it can cut off circulation and be hard to remove. This is not good! If a cock ring does not feel comfortable, take it off.  Also, don’t leave it on for a long time–30 minutes is the suggested duration.

Not everyone likes wearing a cock ring because there is a certain sense of pressure that is not comfortable for some men.  For others, the sensation feels good.

Cock rings can be purchased at most adult sex toy stores, and cover quite the spectrum.  You can get velcro, vibrating or even high-end cock rings that are serious BLING!

And one that counts thrusts!  (A Thrust-o-meter??) 17221

Planned Parenthood of northern New England’s Education Department carefully selects all weekly questions. All questions are actual inquiries made to PPNNE by college-aged students.

Should you have a question you would like to see included, please send an email to goddess@ppnne.org