Posts Tagged ‘orgasm’

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Week 48-What is a cock ring and how do you use one?

July 24, 2009

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First off, let’s say the term “cock ring” lacks elegance.  It is also sometimes referred to as a C-ring. That said, men use cock rings to make their penis larger and harder and to keep their penis erect for a longer period of time.  Men also use them to change the way ejaculations and orgasms feel.

You put a cock ring on when the penis is soft (over the shaft and the testicles – it will stay in place).  A well-fitted cock ring can also be removed from a hard penis (using lube can help when putting it on or taking it off). They need to fit properly–if not, they can be harmful.  Beginners should seek out cock rings that are softer and made of leather or rawhide. These products can be adjusted and won’t get as tight as a metal or a rubber cock ring. If it is too tight, it can cut off circulation and be hard to remove. This is not good! If a cock ring does not feel comfortable, take it off.  Also, don’t leave it on for a long time–30 minutes is the suggested duration.

Not everyone likes wearing a cock ring because there is a certain sense of pressure that is not comfortable for some men.  For others, the sensation feels good.

Cock rings can be purchased at most adult sex toy stores, and cover quite the spectrum.  You can get velcro, vibrating or even high-end cock rings that are serious BLING!

And one that counts thrusts!  (A Thrust-o-meter??) 17221

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Week 28-What is the best position for women to reach orgasm?

March 6, 2009

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Intercourse is usually enough for a man to have an orgasm. The stimulation to his penis gives him pleasure and helps him reach orgasm – not so true for a woman.  Intercourse  doesn’t stimulate a woman’s clitoris enough. Most women need to be “turned on” in other ways in order to have an orgasm.

That said, the largest sexual organ in the body is the brain.  Some sexologists say that what is happening between your ears influences arousal more than other parts of your body. 

You have a few other areas to work with, too. Nipples, clitoris, vulva, perineum, and anus are sensitive and can be aroused with good touch – rubbing, pressure, slow or fast, hard touch or soft.  For most people, orgasms happen as a result of stimulation – especially to these parts of one’s body.

Learn about your partner’s hot spots – ask her what she likes and doesn’t like. 

The best position for a woman to reach orgasm is individual.  Listen to your partner’s breathing, watch her body movements and her facial expressions – that will tell you what is arousing to her.

Being a good lover takes practice and the willingness to find out from your partner what gives her pleasure.  That, really, is the best position of all to be in. 

The Pointer Sisters wrote an instruction manual/song in 1981 for those of you still unclear:

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Week 27-Is it true that some women never orgasm during sex?

February 27, 2009

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Apparently some can orgasm over a really good tuna melt.

First things first:  what do we mean when we say “sex” ?  The question about never having an orgasm during sex is really about never having an orgasm during penile/vaginal intercourse.  Not “sex”, which can include a variety of fun activities.

Some thoughts:

  • According to surveys as much as 15% of the female population have never have had an orgasm.
  • 10% of women can only orgasm when they are masturbating.
  • About 35% of women will orgasm during intercourse.
  • The majority of women can orgasm with their partners – but that is when their partner is stimulating (licking or rubbing) their clitoris.

The majority of women can also orgasm when they are masturbating or using a vibrator. Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm – this is the key.

It is sometimes difficult to find a partner’s clitoris – some are small and some are hidden under folds of skin – talk to your partner about how you will know when you are being an attentive lover and giving her pleasure and how you can make sure you are actually touching her clitoris.  It is a wondrous little organ, and you may want to do some clitoral homework to learn more.

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Week 16-Is it true a woman can’t get pregnant if she is on top?

December 12, 2008

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No, it is not true. A woman can get pregnant anytime if sperm enters her vaginal canal.

There are many myths about how a woman can or can’t get pregnant, especially myths about sexual positions.  The bottom line is if sperm can and does enter a woman’s vagina then there is a possibility of pregnancy occurring.

A question that often comes up is that if a guy ejaculates on a girl’s upper thigh she won’t get pregnant.  That is not necessarily true. There is still a slight chance that some sperm will find their way to the vagina and pregnancy could occur.

But we don’t want to give the “woman-on-top” position a bad reputation:  it is true that when a woman is on top there is an increased chance she will have an orgasm. The position allows for more stimulation of the clitoris and therefore heightens the opportunity for orgasm and pleasure.  To read more about that magical little organ, please refer to Week 4!

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Week 11-What exactly is an orgasm?

November 7, 2008

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An orgasm, or sexual climax, is controlled by the autonomic nervous system. It is accompanied by quick cycles of muscle contraction (in consistent 0.8 second intervals) in the lower pelvic muscles surrounding the primary sexual organs.

Explosive bursts of 156 mph nerve impulses, lasting 3-10 seconds, pulsate through the body. This amounts to about 12 minutes per year.  Many scientists believe the pleasure derived from this physical response is biology’s way of ensuring reproduction of the species.

Men’s orgasms are essential for reproduction, whereas women’s…just are.  Some research, though,  has shown that an orgasm increases the likelihood of conception. Women tend to reach orgasm more easily when they are ovulating, which offers more evidence that it is tied to increased fertility.

Oxytocin, or the “love hormone”, plays a key role in during sexual activity for both men and women, inducing feelings of warmth, satisfaction, and sexual arousal. 

Read this for a closer look at the science and history of the orgasm.

Planned Parenthood of Northern New England’s Education Department carefully selects all weekly questions. All questions are actual inquiries made to PPNNE by college-aged students.  

Should you have a question you would like to see included, please send an email to goddess@ppnne.org