Posts Tagged ‘sexual pleasure’

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Week 56-How should I present a fetish to my partner?

September 18, 2009

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By definition, “Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the sexual arousal brought on by any object, situation or body part not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature.”

There are a wide range of fetishes people experience.  You may like being tied up, for example, and someone else may be turned on by feet.  Fetishes vary from person to person.

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If you want to share a fetish with your partner, wait until you know them well enough.  Asking someone on a first date to tie you up in leather and whip you could leave them running for the hills.

Once you feel comfortable enough with your partner, choose a time to talk and be as honest as possible.  Let your partner know how and why this fetish turns you on.

Ask your partner to include the fetish in your sex play—when and if they feel ready.

You should be aware your partner may be apprehensive to this idea at first, especially if this is the first time he/she has ever dated someone with a fetish. Be patient and non-defensive during this time.

Although there are lots of myths about them, fetishes can be safe, enhance sexual experiences, and be enjoyed by both partners.  Like any other sexual activity, it must always be consensual, mutual and respectful.

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Week 11-What exactly is an orgasm?

November 7, 2008

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An orgasm, or sexual climax, is controlled by the autonomic nervous system. It is accompanied by quick cycles of muscle contraction (in consistent 0.8 second intervals) in the lower pelvic muscles surrounding the primary sexual organs.

Explosive bursts of 156 mph nerve impulses, lasting 3-10 seconds, pulsate through the body. This amounts to about 12 minutes per year.  Many scientists believe the pleasure derived from this physical response is biology’s way of ensuring reproduction of the species.

Men’s orgasms are essential for reproduction, whereas women’s…just are.  Some research, though,  has shown that an orgasm increases the likelihood of conception. Women tend to reach orgasm more easily when they are ovulating, which offers more evidence that it is tied to increased fertility.

Oxytocin, or the “love hormone”, plays a key role in during sexual activity for both men and women, inducing feelings of warmth, satisfaction, and sexual arousal. 

Read this for a closer look at the science and history of the orgasm.

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Week 10-What is frottage?

October 31, 2008

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Frottage, from the French “frotter” (to rub),  is getting sexual pleasure from rubbing up against someone or something–it is the technical term for “dry humping”, also known as “outercourse”.

If frottage is a mutually consensual affair, it is considered safe sex and can be performed either naked or clothed. Dressed or not, frottage is safer than oral, anal or vaginal sex, as no bodily fluids are exchanged. 

And remember, Wednesday is hump day!

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Week 4-What is the only organ dedicated exclusively to sexual pleasure?

September 19, 2008

The clitoris:

6000 to 8000 nerve-endings ensure sensitivity!

The penis also gives pleasure, but is multi-use: urination.

Other organs and functions of our body also give us sexual pleasure, for example, our skin.  And let’s not forget the “master sex organ”:  the brain!

And gentlemen, if this seems unfair, remember that women are the ones who deal with periods, pregnancy and childbirth!